Getting Real

Getting Real

The "getting real" phenomenon voices itself through the postmodern buzz words "authentic," "passion," "chill," "sharing," "praxis," and, not surprisingly, "real."

It expresses itself in trends like casual attire at religious functions, paraphrasing the Scriptures. It fuels much of the current boom in counseling and paves the way for Every Man's Battle-type books which admit the horrors of the heretofore unmentionable sin of pornography. It at times makes it okay for a rabbi to admit before his entire congregation, including bewildered children and grossed-out teens, a litany of moral infractions that would make the Mafia blush.

At its worst, "getting real" places "getting right" at too low a rung of the priority ladder, in many cases entirely out of sight. Then, "getting real" seems to say that obeying God is optional as long as we're honest about disobeying Him.

But in spite of all the baggage "getting real" brings, I'm committed to it.

You and I know that social trends over-correct one another, creating a self-perpetuating, reactive, pendulum swing. "Getting real" has over-corrected the excesses of "getting right." But lets back up our pendulum a few miles to the center—which "getting real" blew right past in its flight from "getting right"—and see what "getting real and getting right" look like as a pair.

Getting real/right means swearing off, for once and for all, hypocrisy, which is neither real nor right. A double life projects a false image, of which God said, "You shall not make for yourself an idol," Ex. 20:4. Don't make an idol for yourself, especially not one of yourself, dismantled from your real self. You'll wind up with an adoring public who doesn't even know you. You'll be lonely as hell, smiling for the camera.

Aren't some things private? Yes. But ideally, nothing is secret. With the grossed-out teens listening to the pornography confession, I reject undiscriminating, thoughtless "getting real." Sin and failure should be confessed selectively, first and foremost to those affected by it.

Okay, lecture over. Assignment time. Whatever your struggle, whatever your wound, write three versions of it: the one sentence version, the one paragraph version, and the one page version. The one sentence version you share with acquaintances—"Life is a struggle right now, please pray for me!" The one paragraph version goes out to friends and the one page version to loved ones. The book version share with God and anyone besides Him who would want to stay awake for that long. Always express your hope alongside pain, so as not to make honest disclosure a downer for you and others: "I'll get through this with God, but right now I don't see how. . . " In this way the real you and the projected you begin to match one another. The gap between the two closes, and you know you're "getting real." Which is, after all, right.

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Posted on Shalom Adventure by:  Jeffrey Alan

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